Ok. Ok. First I need to apologize for not posting for waaaay too long. I seriously am learning as I go. When I first opened this account I was just learning about blogging and didn’t have much time to post. I have been coaching many many clients through email. So basically all my blogging has been private. But now, I am not working one on one with anyone. My schedule is geared now to working with groups and creating products for even more people to benefit from.
So you can count on this being updated monthly. I will be answering email questions and talking about current ideas and of course all of my tools. I want this to be a place you can come when you are feeling discouraged with your weight loss journey and get a pep talk or a new idea to focus on.
I will also keep you updated on what is going on with me. I receive so many emails from past clients who just wan to know “What’s up?” and it is sometimes hard for me to get back to all of you. So, hopefully, this will help a little. I will still do my best to answer each and every email personally.
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Ok. So now onto something useful for you to think about. I wondered what is the most common question I get through new client emails and I came up with the following: “What should I do when I want to eat and I know I am not hungry?”
Are you ready?
Ha ha ha ha. I know that is soo easy for me to say. But really think about it. If you aren’t hungry and you want to eat, the reason you want to eat is not logical. You don’t need food. If you needed food you would be hungry.
So what is it you need? I promise you that you won’t find out if you eat. If you think you don’t know what is going on with you. If you think you don’t know what you are feeling. If you think you don’t know what your negative thoughts are. Then you need to NOT EAT and find out.
The minute you eat you lose access to your interior life. You lose the opportunity to get to know yourself and what you are experiencing in each moment. Eating is what we do when we want to disconnect from our experience. It is how we put distance between ourselves and our pain. Or what we imagine will be painful.
But here is what I know and what my clients know. If you don’t eat when you aren’t hungry you get the opportunity to feel what it is like to feel some pain or some frustration or some loneliness all the way through to the other side. And on the other side of a feeling is a thought causing it. If you give yourself the chance to find that thought, you will most likely find a negative lie that needs some work. Some belief system that you may not have known you have.
And when you become aware of this thought that is the cause of your pain. You can change it. You can take control of your thinking by getting to know it. By willing to listen to yourself.
And if you do this enough, you can change many negative thoughts to more positive beliefs. You can change, “I don’t have control.” to “I am the only one who has complete control over me.”
Before you know it, a whole week will go by when you haven’t wanted to eat when you weren’t hungry. That is our goal. We don’t want you to have to fight against the desire to overeat; we don’t want that desire to be relevant in your life.
So next time you want to eat when you aren‘t hungry. Don’t eat.
The very worst thing that can happen is a feeling.
Feel it through to the other side.
That’s where YOU are waiting. (much thinner)
The best gift you have to give is your own happiness.