I love the way this sounds.
I love that I can say this anytime I start getting into someone else's business. Whether I am in their business because I think I know how they should live their life in someway, or I am in their business because I am believing they know how to live mine; I love that (if it feels bad) I can excuse myself.
The word excuse is the key here.
I am not yelling at them to stay the hell out of my business. I am not flipping them off because they won't do what I say.
I am saying "excuse me" as if slightly apologizing for my audacity to think I know more about how they should think or behave than they do. I am "excusing myself" as if from a meal or a party that I no longer want to partake in.
It's not violent or angry. It is mannered and gentle. It is acknowledging that I have found myself in a place I do not want to be and will now excuse myself.
Someone feels offended and is expressing their outrage that I won't take them on as a client. They are ranting on and on about how it is my responsibility to help them and that I can't be so busy not to take them on….
It is at this point that I excuse myself from their business.
Or another example:
I think my husband should medicate my mother-in-law when she is highly anxious. I am indignant about it and forcing him to listen to the list of perfect reasons I have to prove this is the best course of action. As we raise our voices in disagreement..I pause and say apologetically say to him,
"It is at this point that I would like to excuse myself from your business."
I have enough of my own business. I am in people's business for a living, helping them sort out their most intimate thoughts and their relationship with their own minds. I am invited into my kid's business, my friend's business, and I welcome the people I love into mine when appropriate.
For the other precious moments of my life- I want to excuse myself from other peoples' business.