Sometimes I take clients from completely unconscious to obsessively analytical.
They come to me not even knowing that their thoughts cause their feelings, and then they somehow start sitting on the sidelines of their life watching and analyzing each and every thought they think.
They use this coaching as further proof that they can get nowhere they want to be in their life.
But, then I gently (ok so not so gently,) adjust them back by telling them this:
Become aware of your thoughts and how they affect your life.
Create some new thoughts to cultivate your new life.
AND THEN GET OFF YOUR BUTT AND BUILD SOME EVIDENCE FOR YOUR NEW THOUGHT.
If your new thought is: I can make this relationship work.
Then do it.
Don't wait to see if love comes to you.
Love them. As in a verb. As in action. Love them to prove it will work. Love them to prove to yourself you do love them.
Don't watch your thought and then wait and see what happens. Create your thoughts and let those new thoughts fuel your ACTION.
Stop creating new excuses to do more coaching and more healing and more considering.
First, clean up your thinking.
Second, work your butt off.