Which one does your life do?
I used to be all about impressing other people.
Look at me!
Look at my outfit, my car, my cute apartment, my grades.
Look at how much weight I can lose!
But, as Martha Beck says, "When people are busy being impressed looking at you, they might not ever see you."
And they didn't see me.
I didn't even see me.
Even when I was able to "impress" someone, it didn't give me peace. It gave me the feeling of anxiety-because I felt I needed to keep impressing them.
More clothes, more weight to lose, more make-up to buy….
Then, I went to a seminar and wrote a mission statement for my life: I want to be an example of what is possible.
As I started to live my life based on this new desire, I stopped trying to impress. I started to get to know myself and learn what I truly wanted and what I was capable of doing.
I wanted what was possible for my life. I wanted to show myself what I could be.
It was a good decision.
After losing weight and keeping it off, I became much less interested in showing off and impressing, and much more interested in inspiring others to figure out why they were overeating.
It led to my life of being a coach. Of being seen. And seeing.
What about you?
Are you trying to get people to look at you?
Or are you letting them really see you?