Most of us are good at wanting.
We want more money.
We want a relationship.
We want customers.
We want exposure.
We want to be thin.
But how good are we at having?
I was thinking about this today as I was hiking. I was thinking about all of the things I had once really really wanted, that I now have.
A loving relationship
A job I love
Clients who amaze me
Students who inspire me
A plasma TV
A white Pottery Barn couch
It seems wanting these things was exciting and intense and strong.
Having them seems less exciting-more routine.
Why is that? It doesn't make sense. It seems having should be way better than wanting.
I want to be a better "haver".
I want to really have what I have.
I want to have as a verb.
Just thinking about what I have, paying attention to what I have, being with what I have, using what I have, appreciating what I have, loving what I have puts me in a place of so much joy.
It fills me with a sense of completion, accomplishment, and empowerment.
It doesn't make me want any less.
It just helps me want what I already have.
I want to be better at having.