At the school, I teach the concept of unconditional love. Not the Mother Teresa have to be a saint kind, but the selfish kind. When we love something or somebody, we feel good. So love is a very good choice when it comes to how we want to feel about anything. Many of my students [...]
I Just Wanted to Be Like Her
February 24, 2012 By
When I was younger, I just wanted to be like her. I spent hours thinking about how she had it made… She was beautiful. She was rich. She was talented. She was loved. And most of all, she was thin. Effortlessly thin. I knew that if I could just be her, I would have the [...]
No is the Beginning
January 25, 2012 By
When someone says no to me, I consider that the beginning of our negotiation. I am not talking about a personal no, given as a boundary; but I am talking about no’s that come from a belief that something is impossible. For example, if I ask if something can be printed in two days for [...]
Coaches on Fire!
January 20, 2012 By
I just want to take a moment to acknowledge all of the students who have gone through the school. If that's you, you know what I am talking about. This school is hard. It requires you to show up fully and without distraction. And student after student is doing it. Doing the hard work [...]
Are You an Expert at Suffering?
January 15, 2012 By
I spend a lot of my day convincing my clients they are wrong. They don’t concede easily. They fight for their limitations, their problems, their suffering. They are so good at “doing” their problems, they don’t want to give them up. They have practiced them for years. They have owned them like family heirlooms. They [...]
What Matters
January 7, 2012 By
When I sell a book, I make about $10. Money. I love money and I love earning it. Every single dollar of it. But it’s not what really matters to me. Sometimes, when I sell a book, I get a letter from a reader. Here is one I received last week: Subject: THANK YOU [...]
Keeping Decisions
December 29, 2011 By
It’s one thing to make a decision. In fact, making a decision is somewhat easy. “I’m going to start working out.” “I am going to stop drinking alcohol.” Decisions like these are made all the time. (Usually when buying bikini’s or nursing hangovers.) But, often, as soon as there’s cake or an open bottle of [...]
Family
December 21, 2011 By
The older I get, the more I love my family of origin. They haven’t changed. No, really. If anything they have gotten more set in their ways, more opinionated about my life, more free with their commentary. But, I have changed. I have grown and expanded. I choose not to be easily offended or upset. [...]
An Example of What is Possible
December 15, 2011 By
I’m at the Nashville airport right now, on my way home from working with Susan Hyatt. Susan is my long time student, client, colleague and friend. Each year we do a Weight Loss event together, but this year we are creating something epic. As I hung out with her and laughed with her and talked [...]
Being Conscious
December 9, 2011 By
How do naturally thin people know they’re going unconscious in their lives? Seriously. I know I’m going unconscious when I overeat or eat when I’m not hungry. It’s my signal. My reminder. My alarm. Whenever I have even a hint of it, I stop and consider my mind and what I’m trying to avoid feeling. [...]