A few weeks ago, we went to San Francisco to meet our extended family for the day. We met up with them in Japan Town and then planned to head to a restaurant at the wharf. We had never been to this particular restaurant before, so although it wasn’t far away, we put it in [...]

This is a picture of my son. He took of himself with his phone. He’s currently obsessed with soccer. It’s hard for many of my friends to understand how much time and energy we put into this sport. We adjusted our year-long trip to come home so our son could play with his team. And, [...]

I think laughing might be the most important thing. I am fascinated by people who never seem to laugh. I laugh at everything.  I love laughing. I am always looking for an excuse to laugh.  I want to find you funny. My kids are always laughing.   They laugh at us mostly. But I love [...]

  Sorry, but you can’t know what is best for someone else. You may think you have answers for how they should live their life. But you don’t. Thinking you do is nothing short of arrogant. You may think they should stop drinking or overeating or watching so much TV.  You may want them to [...]

  I will be happy when I meet the love of my life. I will be happy when I am thin. I will be happy when I have more money. Problem is… We often get thinness or money or love, and the unhappiness is still there. And then we’re really screwed. Because now we are [...]

  I was reading Penelope Trunk’s blog the other day and one of the lines grabbed ahold of me, “Let your life surprise you.” I wonder how you do that? You let go some. You have faith. You admit you don’t know everything. You stop trying to control how it will all turn out. I [...]

Seriously?  Have some self respect. This is what I say to my children when I walk into their room at the end of the weekend. Their room looks like they’ve had a 48 hour rave when left with no weekday expectations. I talk to them about cleanliness.  I explain that being able to see the [...]

A couple of years ago, someone I love decided they no longer wanted me in their life. I was devastated. I was mad. I was confused. But mostly, I was sad. I knew better than to hate or argue or try to change her mind, but I couldn’t shake the sadness. I tried to coach [...]

I want to quit all the time. I think of quitting on myself often. But I don’t. It’s easier to quit on a relationship than to do the work to make it strong and unconditional. It’s easy to quit on your own business when work gets hard and no one acknowledges you or pays you [...]

Love is amazing when it’s easy. The other person is doing what you like, when you like it, so the loving comes easily. And it feels great. But then they do something you don’t like. Really don’t like. That’s when loving is hard. It’s hard because you don’t want to love them when they don’t [...]