At the school, I teach the concept of unconditional love. Not the Mother Teresa have to be a saint kind, but the selfish kind. When we love something or somebody, we feel good. So love is a very good choice when it comes to how we want to feel about anything. Many of my students [...]
No is the Beginning
January 25, 2012 By
When someone says no to me, I consider that the beginning of our negotiation. I am not talking about a personal no, given as a boundary; but I am talking about no’s that come from a belief that something is impossible. For example, if I ask if something can be printed in two days for [...]
Keeping Decisions
December 29, 2011 By
It’s one thing to make a decision. In fact, making a decision is somewhat easy. “I’m going to start working out.” “I am going to stop drinking alcohol.” Decisions like these are made all the time. (Usually when buying bikini’s or nursing hangovers.) But, often, as soon as there’s cake or an open bottle of [...]
Being Conscious
December 9, 2011 By
How do naturally thin people know they’re going unconscious in their lives? Seriously. I know I’m going unconscious when I overeat or eat when I’m not hungry. It’s my signal. My reminder. My alarm. Whenever I have even a hint of it, I stop and consider my mind and what I’m trying to avoid feeling. [...]
A Manifesto of Friendship
November 30, 2011 By
The only expectation to have of your friends- is that they be themselves. This is only for badasses. This is not for the ones who want to blame their best friends for their feelings. Have your friends tell you the truth about what they want. It might sound something like, I don’t want to come [...]
I Have a Great Time with My Life
November 21, 2011 By
I was putting together some videos for my students at The Life Coach School because we have this week off for Thanksgiving. I came across a fantastic one by Will Smith. It’s about 10 minutes and I highly recommend you have a listen. He gives us all some great thoughts to think. Here is a sample [...]
Give
November 14, 2011 By
Give to people who don’t appreciate it Give to people who can never pay you back Give to people who think they give you more Give to people you love and to people you don’t love Give to people who get pissed when you stop giving Give when it feels true and honest Give what [...]
Unconditional Love
November 4, 2011 By
It’s not just for Mother Teresa. It’s not just for the person you’re loving. It’s for you. When you love someone without condition, they get to be themselves around you. They get to enjoy a space of acceptance without condition. But you are the one who really gets to feel the love- you’re the one [...]
Pain is Pain
October 25, 2011 By
For some reason, Jennifer Aniston’s name comes up a lot in my coaching. My clients seem to want to be her-or at least have her body. So I think about Jen a lot. I think about what it might be like to be her. She has what so many of my clients think will give [...]
How to Ask for Something
September 5, 2011 By
I always encourage my clients to ask for what they want. People love to give. They want to say yes. (It's easier than saying no.) Remember this… 1. If you are asking someone for something that will take their time, money or energy consider what's in it for them. Is it a win-win or [...]